Racism On The Road: A Lesson Learnt


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To start with this is not a click bait title. Those familiar with my blog are aware that i share intimate travel stories. Racism is too big an issue and should be talked about more often. During my solo travels i had came across few bad incidents but this one incident was a full blown racial abuse which i feel i should share with my readers. As a Travel Blogger, i want to share all of my travel experiences: Good, Bad and Ugly. I won't be taking name of the place since i had a great time there except this one ugly incident. I don't want to malign the image of the place as the perpetrators were not local people.
It was my first Airbnb experience and i loved it. My hosts are great people. So thoughtful and helpful. We had a shared interest and we hit it off pretty good. We talked about India, cinema, culture and their country over a glass of wine. We're in touch even today. I was really touched by their hospitality. I wish i had spend some more time with them. On the night of check-out i packed my bags and bid them adieu. I had an early morning flight to catch. I left their home after midnight. I need to catch a bus to the airport. I checked the bus stop earlier as navigating through those cosy lanes can be very confusing for newcomers. As it happens, when i left their home i was quite confident about the directions but eventually got lost. I cursed myself for not using Google maps before leaving their home. Finally, i gave up and look for someone to help me out. It was late at night and lanes were virtually empty. I approached a guy who look stoned and walked past me without answering. I was getting late and wanted to reach the bus stop as soon as possible. I saw a group of youngsters and approached them. I asked for the directions. Here's my account:

One girl from the group said in a mocking tone: "Oh please help me, oh poor me, i am lost".
I smiled thinking she's just joking around.
Same girl again "What are you doing here?".
I told her i got lost and asked the direction again.
Girl: "Why are you here?"
Me: Sorry?
She said again: "Why are you here?"
I gave her the confusing look.
She yelled "Go back to your *beep* country."
Usually, I don't take *beep* from anyone. I don't know what happened to me at that time, i just froze. Maybe because i wasn't expecting this kind of revert.
I start walking past her when she suddenly pushed me and said again "Go back to your country."
Other people in the group did not utter a single word. They just stand there looking at each other or their mobile phones.
I replied "*Beep* Off".
The girl started yelling expletives and disgusting racist slurs.
I fast paced my steps and walked past the group. As i cover more and more distance, her yelling faded away.

I somehow managed to reach the bus stop. I was running pretty late. But while waiting for the bus all i thinking about was the incident. I was shaken up by what just happened. I feel vulnerable and powerless followed by immense anger. I cursed myself for running away from the situation instead of tackling it. I was facing down looking at the ground when a woman touched my shoulder and said something in a foreign language. I snapped back "What you want?" She said something again in a foreign language. I yelled "GET LOST". She said few words in English. Basically, she was saying I'm at the wrong bus stop and telling me to go to the opposite direction. She must have deduced from my luggage that I'm going to the airport. I said "sorry" multiple times and thanked her before running to the opposite direction. I boarded the bus and reached airport just in time. If i had missed that bus i would had missed the flight. The whole incident got me thinking about the human nature and made me realize: "Hate cannot drive out hate." "An Eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." There are more good people in the world than bad people else this world would have cease to exist. Stand your ground and don't let few people's bad actions change the way you see the world.

It was maybe a minor racism incident but the impact was major. Like everyone i saw and read a lot of news involving racism and even heard few incidents from my relatives/friends who are settled abroad. But personally never came across any such incident in my life until this one which shook me and made me see how racism is one of the biggest ills of our society. Apart from segregating it is a direct assault on a person's existence. I have not shared this incident with anyone till now. If my post can change even one person's heart, it would be one of my biggest accomplishments. Leaving you all with this quote which i strive to achieve: "However Vast The Darkness, We Must Supply Our Own Light."







Comments

  1. I can relate and I love this part of your post -
    "Hate cannot drive out hate." "An Eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."

    So true. Thank you.

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  2. I am so sorry that this happened to you. There is no explanation for this kind of behaviour, but they were "youngsters"as you said, so there is still hope. I think all of us did or said something we are not proud of when we were younger and immature, so I hope that this girl will one day understand.

    I like that you do not share the name of the place. That just prooves that you live by "Hate cannot drive out hate. An Eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."

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  3. That's really sad that you have to face this. More than exotic locations what makes a country lovable are its people. So I stricyly stand against racial attack. Good that you raised your voice against it.

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  4. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry that this happened and, like the above poster stated, they're young, so maybe there is still hope.

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  5. Eeeeeiiiisssshhhhhhhhhhh......that was ssooo bad! We must beat #racism collectively...otherwise, we won't be having a world soon!

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  6. I'm so sorry that you had to experience this horrible act of racism. As black women we've both experienced our fair share of not always being welcome by everyone while traveling locally and abroad. But you're correct - you can't drive out hate with hate. Thankfully I find the majority of people aren't racist jerks!

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  7. I am so sorry about that! How come a human being can act like this? I really don't understand while we can't choose where we were born, how could It be a fault? It shouldn't be a criteria to have an idea towards others... So sorry.

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  8. Hey, sorry about the incident however, I've come to realise that racism is sorta part of the travel experience. Sad as it may seem, in order to truly know/ experience a place you have to live through the pains/fears of the locals and unfortunately, these days most people are afraid of foreigners and people who don't look like them. I've lived in India while it is one of my favourite places on earth however I've been exposed to the most racism there. Take heart. And continue travelling. Btw, if you wanna read about my travel experiences check out (hope you like the stories): https://bedtimeblabber.blogspot.com/2016/11/adieu-my-fellow-travelers.html
    https://bedtimeblabber.blogspot.com/2018/06/world-lessons.html

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  9. I'm sorry too that you had to experience this, I didn't quite catch which country this was? The topic of racism occupies me a lot, after all I work in an antiracism organisation and have almost the same cultural background as you. Anyway, I think it's really beautiful that you learned something from this experience as well, that you were aware enough to come to that realisation so fast, about hate not creating hate. I'm glad you got to meet people who were nice and whom you had a lot in common with as well. Thank you for sharing this story!

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  10. Sorry you had to go through that experience. But the world we live in is full of ignorant people like her. The only way to combat this is by keep spreading awareness and love. You handled the situation very maturely and seeing as you were abroad I would have done the same.

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  11. This is very sad. But, you are right. There are more good people than bad people. Such that it is shocking when this happens. But, fighting back or encouraging her more, may not have been the best thing for you as you may have been hurt. It is sad that people still are racist. It’s really time to quit it.

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  12. I am so sorry that you had to deal with this. As a white gay woman I too get abuse thrown at me because of who I love. I don't ubderunder why people feed their hate instead of face it and live in peace and harmony.

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  13. Racism is born out of ignorance. Don’t let this ignorance affect you personally, it’s her problem not yours. You sound like a very decent person, I’m sorry you had to endure this

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  14. I am part native, Ojibway. I grew up in the suburbs outside Toronto and never encountered racism until I moved to the reservation. The closest city is Sudbury, Ontario. I love Sudbury but going into the stores there I am *red flagged*...Seriously, every customer service/sales person at every store follows me around waiting for me to steal something. On a good day, I ignore them. On a bad day, I pick up items in the store and leave them in other spots just to drive them crazy. :) Great post!

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